I can’t talk for all men, maybe not even most but I’d like to think my stance on the matter of natural hair is agreeable.
When people ask what I look for in a women, in regards to physical attributes, amongst other things I usually state natural long curly hair.
At one point I didn’t even realise this was a preference of mine until I looked back at my ex girlfriends to realise they all actually had this in common, of course they didn’t always have it curly but it was definitely the norm.
Anyway, now that I’ve come to accept I’m attracted to this, I’ve come to realise why.
Having natural hair, or natural anything for that matter isn’t just a physical representation, it says something about a person too, whether you think you look your best with your natural hair or not, leaving it natural shows you’re confident being you, the way you are. Many people might argue it’s not that deep and girls don’t get weave or extensions because they don’t like their hair they just want it to be longer, or thicker, more relaxed or bouncier. Cool. Personally I’d argue why isn’t it long or thick enough the way it is, but I’ve had long hair myself (once upon a time… see below) so I understand the benefits of using extensions or weave so that you can style your hair the way you want whilst still preserving your natural hair and in that case I 100% GET IT!
BUT that is rarely the case, more often that not, whether it’s due to mass media, fashion trends or whatever else, many girls feel inadequate comparing themselves to the airbrushed images of perfection they see plastered on TV, the internet, social networks, magazines etc and they use products to alter their appearance to closer adhere to these false images of perfection.
Now I’m not going to lie and say I’d be more attracted to a girl with nappy short hair over a girl with long, luscious, bouncy curls but I’m going to loose attraction to the girl with fake long, luscious, bouncy curls once I realise it’s not really hers and ultimately I will always be more attracted to a girl who’s flaunts her natural style, sometimes it’s not even about what you have but how confident you are with it.
As for girls who use hair products, extensions or weave to pull off a style that is not natural to them, i.e. a more straight hair style, I guess in modern times theres not much I can really say against it because it really has become the norm but again just because there is a trend, it doesn’t mean you have to follow it. Plus as it’s unnatural to you chances are it’s going to take a toll on your hair, I’ve heard countless stories from girls about how long their hair used to be until they started relaxing it and it started splitting and coming out. If you leave it natural, eventually it will grow to a length you can style it in a way you want without having to rely on potentially harmful products.
In closing, I think the best type of hair a girl can have is hers, appreciate your own beauty and it will make it so much easier for others to appreciate it too.